Monday, March 05, 2007

Navigating the Roadmap to Motivation


To motivate people it is important to first understand what they value. In life, our personal values drive most of our actions. What motivates us to approach an activity with enthusiasm or dread is no different.


We have all developed patterns that can predict how we will respond to specific events. Skilled leaders understand these “individual roadmaps” exist and can adjust their own actions accordingly.


Because each of us has our own internal compass that will guide us toward certain actions, good leaders need to understand the individual values held by the members of their team.


In general people tend to move toward things they value and away from things they don’t. Values drive our choices and our choices are what drive our actions. By predicting the choices people will make based on their values, good leaders can fine-tune their motivation to meet the specific needs of each team member.


Let’s take a look at four choices people make that can help us understand their values.


Do It Now or Wait?


Some people tend to like to make things happen. They like to show their initiative and innovate, and are impatient to get going. Other people prefer to wait until they are directed to do something. For them it is important to fully understand and analyze events before they act and are cautious.


Who says it is the right thing to do?


Some people like to listen to that wee small voice in their head. These people take action when they think it’s the right thing for them to do. They aren’t influenced by others’ opinions.


For others the actions or rewards provided by others are more important. These people act because others think it’s a good thing or there is some defined team goal or objective. These people do not want to “let the team down.” They need feedback that tells them they are doing well or specific defined rewards.


Have I done this before or is it New?


Some people enjoy knowing that what they are going to do is like other things they have done in the past. Their routine in life will be similar each and every day. These people value consistency and predictability. Other people value variety and will thrive when they are allowed to do different things on a regular basis. For them the joy of learning new things and exploring new ground is a reward in itself.


Me or We?


Some people value working on their own and will successfully achieve tasks as solo performers. Others prefer to work as part of a team and share ideas and tasks among a group. Understanding these differences can not only lead to greater productivity, it can also mean the difference between peace and harmony in the work place and chaos.


Each of these questions is answered by all off us each and every day. The answers exist on a continuum, and are generally not “black and white”. Skilled leaders recognize them as the sign posts they represent, and can use them to navigate individual “value roadmaps” with ease.


They also help us to understand our own motivation and focus our actions to meet the needs of others.


To motivate people it is important to first understand what they value and you are no exception. As you try to motivate others the first step is to clearly understand your own values. Take a few minutes to think how you would answer each of the questions. Then ask yourself, are you the same or different from your team members?


Understanding the answers to these simple questions can make all the difference in how you and your team succeed or fail.

Sunday, November 05, 2006

Ten Every Day Rules for Success and Happiness

by Steve Farmer


In nature there is one basic truth. All living
things grow and change or they begin to deteriorate
and die. Your relationships, your hobbies, your
career and your life are no different.



Don’t believe it. Just ask yourself where are those
friends you had long ago that that you don’t have
regular contact with?
What ever happened to
that
hobby you loved to spend time with that some how
got set aside and neglected?
Will you really get
that
next promotion or raise if you just show up every day
and keep doing what you are doing now?



So now that you are onboard with the idea, here are
ten things you can do every day to help ensure you
continue to grow and thrive.


Dream

Begin each day by asking your self “what if”
questions. Dream big, abandon previously held truths
for now, you can always apply reality checks
later.



Live in the world of possibilities

Former president Ronald Regan had a standing rule in
his staff meetings. Staffers were never permitted to
say “that will not work because”. Instead every new
idea was approached with the concept “This will
work if...” Challenge yourself to adopt a similar
attitude and avid thinking in terms of problems that
need to overcome. Instead focus on ways to make
your dreams and ideas possible.



Any reason is a good reason to try.

Remember, it is your idea, so go for it. You don’t
need permission to grow. No explanations or excuses
are needed if you desire change.



Perfection will destroy your passion

Experiment with ideas. So what if it isn’t perfect.
Try things out for a while. Live life moving forward,
sure in your belief that some progress is better than
none. Look for the simple solution that moves you
closer to your goal, not the perfect one.



Oops Happens

Things can and will go wrong. Fix mistakes laugh
about them, learn from them and then move on.
Acknowledge mistakes, don’t hide them or wait to fix
them. Make corrections and keep moving.



Take action

Don’t wait there is no perfect time to launch an idea.
The best way to kill an idea is to delay taking action
until the time is right.



Get a vaccination regularly

Barriers and roadblocks to progress are like booster
shots for success. By exposing yourself to
challenges, you get stronger. In the same way
exposing your immune system to small doses of some
diseases, challenges inoculate your resolve to
succeed.



Drill deep for success

Understand the root cause of difficulties. To get to
the source of a problem, always try to ask “WHY” six
times. When you run out of answers to “why”, you
probably have found the point that a small change
will have a big impact on future outcomes.



Live like the hunter gatherer you are meant to
be.


You don’t live alone on this planet, so gather ideas
from lots of people. Build on other peoples ideas
instead of starting from scratch. Ask for help. Other
people really do want you to succeed.



The sun will come up tomorrow

When you reach a goal set another one. There is no
end to growth so keep going and keep
growing.

Read more from Steve at his website.

Saturday, September 30, 2006

One secret to a strong family


Great parents understand that, at the end of
the day, having a strong and happy family is all
about relationships.

Individual family members will not support each other
if they do not trust one another first. They will not
invest in one another or the family as a group unless
they truly feel their best interests are being
promoted and the other family members sincerely
care about them.

To build this trust, great parents set the example
and remember that it is the little things that happen
every day that are important when it comes to
building strong families.

They remember to follow through on commitments.
By doing what they say they will do, when they say
they will do it, creates a pattern of trust and mutual respect. They are punctual and respectful of the
schedules they set and expect other family members
to be the same.

They are courteous, always being mindful that to
earn respect every family member must first give
respect. This does not mean let your kids walk all
over you, you are after all “the parent”. But, it never
hurts to thank people for finishing a job or following
through on an expectation, no matter how simple you
believe the task was.

As a parent if you merely meet the basic needs of
each member of the family. They will live together in
blissful tolerance until someone who can do it better
comes along. On the other hand, if you and your
family can connect on a deeper level based on
mutual respect and trust, bonds will form that will
last a lifetime and hold strong during difficult times.


Monday, September 04, 2006

Is it time to take a personal inventory, and have a Yard Sale?


Most of us carry around a lot of “STUFF” that
keep us from being the people we want to be and
reaching the goals we want to reach.



This “STUFF” can take the form of all the things that
we say we should do but don’t, the people in our
lives that we have had a disagreement with and now
are not speaking to, even though we both want to,
all the “could haves” and “should haves” in our lives
that now hold us back. Like the junk in your
basement this is all the stuff that you need to let go
of, but you don’t.



By holding on to all this stuff we use up a lot of
emotional stress that we could be doing without and
focusing that energy on something much more
productive and rewarding instead!



So, is it time for your emotional yard sale?



If so, then let’s get started and watch the positive
influence it will have.



Watch out though, you will probably find that you
have more energy, greater confidence and self
esteem, and in general a happier more productive
life.



Getting ready for your sale



Take a long hard look at your life and get rid of the
excess baggage by asking yourself a series of
questions and by completing the following
exercises.



In effect, what we will be doing is making certain
tasks “complete”, drawing a line under them and
moving on.



The following set of activities can be done in one
sitting or over a number of hours/days. The only
rules are, once you start you have to finish and
sooner is better than later.



The act of writing the answers down is very
powerful. It helps you to form a stronger
commitment to the actions you will take. So resist
the temptation to short cut the process by making it
a mental exercise only.



Now let’s get to it and watch your life change in
wondrous ways!



Step one: Collect the junk you don’t need or
want!




• Make a list of 10 things that you are
putting up with at home

• Make a list of 10 things that you are
putting up with at work

• Make a list of 10 things that you are
putting up with in any other area of your life

• Make an action plan to get rid of these
things that you have been putting up with. Be
specific about your actions and set time limits for
when to complete them



Step two: Dealing with all those unfinished
projects!




• Make a list of things that are
unresolved/unfinished in your life

• Make an action plan of how to reduce this
number!

• Do you need to clear the air with anyone?
If so, just do it! Life is too short!

• Did you ever say that you were going to
call someone or keep in touch with someone, yet
have done nothing about it? If so, sit down and call
them or send an email to them. Do it today

• Let go of as many “could haves”, “would
haves”, “should haves”, “maybes” and “ought to” as
you can. Write them down, take some action, and
move on. You will feel so much better.



Step three: Setting the price!



• Write down the standards and beliefs that
you have been saying to yourself that you should
have. Let go of these and write down a list of the
standards and beliefs that you are going to let drive
your life from this day forward.

• List 5 people who you admire the most.
Identify their greatest qualities, behaviour and how
they lead their life. What standards and beliefs do
they hold? How do they put those standards and
beliefs into action in their lives? Which ones could
you adopt starting today, to be more like them?

• Recognize that other’s standards will be
different from your own. Think of 5 close colleagues
or friends – what are their standards and how are
they different from yours?



Step four: Plan for the next Yard Sale!




• Get out your calendar and mark off a date
6 months to a year from now to do this all again.

• Just like you gather new clutter in your
basement to fill the space you just cleared, your life
will continue to gather new “STUFF” that you will
need to deal with later.



By having your Yard Sale, you will be able to focus
more on the here the now and the future. You will
be able to let go of some of the things that have
been taking up your valuable time and
energy.



So go ahead, get out there, rollup your sleeves and
get started today.
Is it time to take a personal inventory, and have a Yard Sale?


Most of us carry around a lot of “STUFF” that
keep us from being the people we want to be and
reaching the goals we want to reach.



This “STUFF” can take the form of all the things that
we say we should do but don’t, the people in our
lives that we have had a disagreement with and now
are not speaking to, even though we both want to,
all the “could haves” and “should haves” in our lives
that now hold us back. Like the junk in your
basement this is all the stuff that you need to let go
of, but you don’t.



By holding on to all this stuff we use up a lot of
emotional stress that we could be doing without and
focusing that energy on something much more
productive and rewarding instead!



So, is it time for your emotional yard sale?



If so, then let’s get started and watch the positive
influence it will have.



Watch out though, you will probably find that you
have more energy, greater confidence and self
esteem, and in general a happier more productive
life.



Getting ready for your sale



Take a long hard look at your life and get rid of the
excess baggage by asking yourself a series of
questions and by completing the following
exercises.



In effect, what we will be doing is making certain
tasks “complete”, drawing a line under them and
moving on.



The following set of activities can be done in one
sitting or over a number of hours/days. The only
rules are, once you start you have to finish and
sooner is better than later.



The act of writing the answers down is very
powerful. It helps you to form a stronger
commitment to the actions you will take. So resist
the temptation to short cut the process by making it
a mental exercise only.



Now let’s get to it and watch your life change in
wondrous ways!



Step one: Collect the junk you don’t need or
want!




• Make a list of 10 things that you are
putting up with at home

• Make a list of 10 things that you are
putting up with at work

• Make a list of 10 things that you are
putting up with in any other area of your life

• Make an action plan to get rid of these
things that you have been putting up with. Be
specific about your actions and set time limits for
when to complete them



Step two: Dealing with all those unfinished
projects!




• Make a list of things that are
unresolved/unfinished in your life

• Make an action plan of how to reduce this
number!

• Do you need to clear the air with anyone?
If so, just do it! Life is too short!

• Did you ever say that you were going to
call someone or keep in touch with someone, yet
have done nothing about it? If so, sit down and call
them or send an email to them. Do it today

• Let go of as many “could haves”, “would
haves”, “should haves”, “maybes” and “ought to” as
you can. Write them down, take some action, and
move on. You will feel so much better.



Step three: Setting the price!



• Write down the standards and beliefs that
you have been saying to yourself that you should
have. Let go of these and write down a list of the
standards and beliefs that you are going to let drive
your life from this day forward.

• List 5 people who you admire the most.
Identify their greatest qualities, behaviour and how
they lead their life. What standards and beliefs do
they hold? How do they put those standards and
beliefs into action in their lives? Which ones could
you adopt starting today, to be more like them?

• Recognize that other’s standards will be
different from your own. Think of 5 close colleagues
or friends – what are their standards and how are
they different from yours?



Step four: Plan for the next Yard Sale!




• Get out your calendar and mark off a date
6 months to a year from now to do this all again.

• Just like you gather new clutter in your
basement to fill the space you just cleared, your life
will continue to gather new “STUFF” that you will
need to deal with later.



By having your Yard Sale, you will be able to focus
more on the here the now and the future. You will
be able to let go of some of the things that have
been taking up your valuable time and
energy.



So go ahead, get out there, rollup your sleeves and
get started today.

Tuesday, July 25, 2006

Five things your kids should know about saying “NO”

by
Steve Farmer


In today’s world kids are constantly bombarded with the idea they need to say no. Say no to drugs, no to alcohol. Say no to bad ideas from friends that do not have your best interest at heart. Say no to strangers. And on and on it goes. This idea is so common that we frequently forget that saying no does not come naturally to most people.

So, next time you are talking to your kids make sure they understand the three kinds of NO and how to say no effectively. By the way it probably is not a bad idea to review these things yourself so that the next time you say no, your kids not only get the message they get a role model. So here is what you need to tell your kids.

There are three kinds of no used by most people.

The “Maybe I can be convinced to change my mind NO”

If you are going to say NO, you must say it in a way that means NO!

Saying NO in a quiet, unassuming voice is like a hand shake with a wet noodle.

By saying NO in a non confident manner it will also make you feel as though you have got to convince the other person about your decision and the reasons why you have said it!

Be confident when you speak and know why you are answering the way you are.

The “Get out of my face and never come back NO”

This is at the other end of the spectrum in how to say NO.

It is done in an aggressive manner and usually said with contempt.

It is not an effective way to communicate your NO.

Here are a couple of examples:

“NO. I’m not doing that. You’ve got to be joking aren’t you?”

“NO. I wouldn’t lower myself to do that piece of work”

Be assertive but remember you are attempting to send a message not pick a fight.

The “Assertive I mean no - NO

This is the best way to say NO!

In a firm, yet polite voice say:

“No. I will not be able to do that for you”

Also, if you want to say the reasons why, keep it short and sweet.

“No. I will not be able to do that for you. I will be having my guitar lesson at that time”

Beyond the word we use there are also other things that get your message across. Use effective body language. When saying NO, remember the power of non-verbal communications.

Look the person in the eye when you say the NO.

Shake your head at the same time as saying NO.

Stand up tall.

Use a firm tone in your voice.

When all is said and done you must be in control of the message you want to deliver.
Don’t forget that when anyone asks a question of you, it is perfectly OK to say, “Can I think about that and get back to you”. No-one should be pressured into giving an immediate answer, even if the delay is only a couple of minutes. It will give you some time to think it through and to gather your thoughts. It will also give you some time to think about how you are going to say it, the words to use and your body language.

Now that we know how to do it, lets all get out there and “Just say NO!”




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Tuesday, June 27, 2006

Attitude is Infectious - So Inject Your Team with Joy

By Steve Farmer


Take time to enjoy your leadership role and take the necessary action to infect those around you with joy.

Teams take their attitude from their leader, so be as positive and upbeat as you can. People will naturally absorb and adopt your energy level; if you are “down”, it can worry them and bring them down as well. Be honest – do not put up a false front in the middle of a crisis - but try and put a positive slant on things wherever you can.

If you notice that your team members are acting negative, sad or depressed, or are exhibiting low morale, consider that it might be coming from you or from the work environment, and investigate that before you try to correct the problem at an individual level.

Model the behavior and mentality that you want to see in your team; be open and honest, listen to input and don’t bicker with your colleagues.

Celebrate the little victories along the way for the sheer joy of it. Do a little dance, and get a little bit silly! Your team will appreciate you showing your “human” side. It’s not always about handing out bonuses or promotions - find ways to have fun celebrating everyday victories.

Also celebrate the valiant efforts that fail - learn and grow from them. This will encourage experimentation instead of punishing it. Consider handing out an award for the biggest screw-up or mistake! Really set a standard of taking a chance and going out on a limb for a new idea.

Take the time to find out what individuals and teams each considers a valuable reward. For one person, the worst thing you could do would be to stand them up in front of a crowd, while another person would find that really special and meaningful. Consider other rewards such as more one-on-one time with the boss, a meal or movie voucher, a day off, a handshake, a cash bonus or a positive note in their HR file.

Practicing a light-hearted attitude will improve the working conditions and productivity of your whole team. Regularly celebrating with them rewarding them in ways that THEY find meaningful will increase loyalty and encourage innovation and creativity.

Here are three things to do in the next week to develop this strategy:

1. Come up with five different rewards you’d be willing to give out the next time there’s something to celebrate.

2. Try to match up each reward with the team member you think will most appreciate it.

3. Rate your overall mood at work every day this week. Come up with ways to bring more positive energy, laughter and fun into your day.



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Sunday, April 23, 2006

The Other Side of the Achievement Coin


There are two aspects to achievement – reaching your goal and getting safely back home again. One is incomplete without the other! - Sir Edmund Hillary

In today’s world we frequently push so hard to achieve our goals we forget to stay grounded. As Edmond Hillary reminds us it is never enough to merely set a lofty goal. It is important to focus on your goal with intensity and a conviction that you will succeed. But it is just as important to have a vision and a plan for what we will do once that goal is met.

Time and again people forget the real power of any objective is not in the achievement itself, but in sharing the result with others. The return home provides an opportunity to share the fruits of our journey and the lessons learned.

Stay in touch with your community, and your family. As far back as biblical times we are reminded that it is not enough to gain the world and lose ourselves. By bringing the power of our dreams and the potential of our skills home we can achieve more than in any other way.

So my challenge to you this month is to get involved. Reach out to your community. Find neighborhood projects where you can make a real difference. Volunteer in your schools and hospitals. Share your talents and time more than you share your dollars and cents.

In the 1960’s, President Kennedy challenged America to “place a man on the moon and return him safely to the earth”. Well we have been to the moon. Now it is time to fulfill the second half of the challenge. Over the next several weeks, lets all find ways to return safely to the earth and bring the power of our imaginations to making it a better place for all of our sakes.